1. Start with gentle, broad strokes of licking over her underwear. The indirect contact and the warmth of your breath will heighten her arousal.

2. Following that, remove her bottoms and glide your tongue along her labia (both the inner and outer folds of your vulva) to kindle arousal and enhance blood flow to her clitoris. This will intensify the sensation of every subsequent touch, making it even more exhilarating.

3. Before proceeding, enhance the moisture (to heighten pleasure for her) by applying a few drops of a natural, flavored lubricant.

4. "Many people tend to move too quickly and with too much intensity," notes our SpicyMatch resident sexologist Tracey French. Instead, numerous women prefer the sensation to begin with extremely soft licking with your flat tongue, which provides extensive coverage but in a very gentle manner. Instruct your partner to apply the same pressure as if lightly licking melting ice cream on a cone. “They can gradually increase the intensity from there," suggests Tracey.

5. Before you dive in, place a pillow under her buttocks to elevate her hips. This adjustment changes the angle and provides a more comfortable position for your head and neck, preventing cramping that could lead to early fatigue.

6. Move in a deliberate figure-eight motion, thoroughly exploring the sensitive areas along her labia and clitoris. As her breath deepens, you’ll instinctively focus on those spots and linger there.

7. Research indicates that the top three tactile techniques women favor down there involve a repeated rhythmic motion, circling around the clitoris, and alternating between different strokes (such as circles to up and down, then back). To culminate with an intense finale that might have her tugging on your hair (in the best way), concentrate on the tongue technique that is most effective for her and to persist until she’s unmistakably reached climax.